How was the way he "went about it" wrong? If he wanted to talk to his clan members about it, so be it. In your words Umpa; Koga did keep lots of information private. Is that so bad?
And another reason why I have to trust Koga more at this moment; he hasn't kept anything from us, and he doesn't make us believe information that may not be true. You can never change what happened in the past, and I doubt you would want to, but it can have effects that can be unfavorable and favorable for you as a person, and this time it just happens to be unfavorable.
I'm sorry Umpa, that's just how I see it. And I'm done with the subject, there is no way I'm being a mediator on this.